So, can you have sex during your period? Yes, absolutely! Having sex during your period is safe and can even be beneficial for lifting your mood.
Benefits of Period Sex
Aside from boosting your mood, many people experience a surge in libido during their period.
Period sex also has the following benefits;
- Increased pleasure and sensitivity: Some individuals experience heightened sexual arousal and sensitivity during menstruation due to increased blood flow to the pelvic area. This heightened sensitivity can lead to more intense orgasms and overall sexual pleasure.
- Natural lubrication: Menstrual blood acts as a natural lubricant, which can reduce friction and discomfort during intercourse. This can be especially beneficial for individuals who typically experience vaginal dryness.
- Relief from menstrual symptoms: Engaging in sexual activity can release endorphins and oxytocin, which are natural pain relievers and mood boosters. This can potentially help alleviate menstrual cramps, reduce stress levels, and improve overall mood.
- Intimacy and emotional connection: Sharing and embracing all aspects of a partner's body, including menstruation, can strengthen emotional bonds and deepen intimacy. Open communication and understanding can lead to a more fulfilling sexual relationship.
As with any sex, it should always be mutually consensual between you and your partner, and you should take the same precautions to prevent unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.
Common Misconceptions about Period Sex
There are several common myths and misconceptions surrounding period sex that contribute to the stigma associated with it. Let's address some of them:
- Menstrual blood is dirty: Menstrual blood is a mixture of blood, uterine lining, and cervical mucus, and it is not "dirty" or unhygienic. It is essential to separate menstruation from notions of impurity or shame. Proper hygiene practices and communication between partners can ensure a clean and comfortable experience.
- Increased risk of infection: Engaging in period sex does not inherently increase the risk of infection compared to non-menstrual sexual activity. As mentioned earlier, using protection and maintaining proper hygiene practices are key to reducing the risk of STIs or other infections.
- Period sex can disrupt the menstrual flow: Engaging in sexual activity during menstruation does not impact the duration or flow of the menstrual cycle. The uterine contractions experienced during orgasm may actually help expel menstrual fluid more efficiently.
- Stigma and societal pressure: Societal taboos surrounding period sex can create unnecessary shame or embarrassment. It is crucial to challenge these norms, promote open discussions, and empower individuals to make informed choices about their own bodies and sexual experiences.
Period Sex Safety
One of the primary concerns surrounding period sex is whether it is safe for both partners involved. It is essential to understand that menstruation is a completely normal biological process and does not pose any inherent health risks. However, as with any sexual activity, there are a few considerations to keep in mind to ensure a safe and comfortable experience.
- Protection against sexually transmitted infections (STIs): Engaging in period sex does not eliminate the risk of STIs. Therefore, it is crucial to use appropriate protection such as condoms or dental dams, to reduce the risk of transmission.
- Menstrual hygiene: Proper menstrual hygiene practices are essential during period sex. Both partners should communicate openly and decide what level of blood exposure they are comfortable with. Some individuals may prefer using towels or engaging in sex in the shower, while others might be comfortable with a more direct approach. It is important to find a method that works for both partners.
- Menstrual products: Depending on personal preference, menstrual products can be worn during sex. Sponges, menstrual cups, or soft discs are suitable options that can be worn discreetly. However, it's crucial to ensure the product is properly inserted and comfortable to prevent any discomfort or accidental removal.
Tips for Period Sex
If you and your partner are open to having period sex, here are some tips;
TIP 1: Open communication
Discuss your preferences and comfort levels with your partner beforehand. Make sure you both feel comfortable and enthusiastic about engaging in period sex. It's essential to respect each other's boundaries and desires.
TIP 2: Take it slow
Go at a pace that feels comfortable for both partners. Remember that menstruation can sometimes bring heightened sensitivity, so be attentive to each other's needs and regularly check in with one another.
TIP 3: Lubrication
Some people may experience a drier vagina during menstruation, so engage in extended foreplay to help increase arousal and natural lubrication or use water-based lubricants to enhance comfort and reduce friction. Avoid using oil-based lubricants, as they can damage condoms.
Tip 4: Use a towel or head to the shower
For those who are comfortable with a little mess, it may be enough to put a towel down to prevent any stains. Others may like to use it as an excuse to enjoy period sex in the shower, where the water takes care of any mess for you! Always speak to your partner to see what they’re comfortable with, and take this into account. While periods are completely normal and natural, not everyone is comfortable with the sight of blood and this should be respected.
TIP 5: Sponges for period sex
A great way to have mess-free sex during your period is by using purpose-made period sponges. They are soft, pliable, invisible once inserted and virtually undetectable by your partner. For hygiene reasons, we recommend choosing a single-use period sponge like Beppy or JoyDivision for use during sex (rather than reusable period sponges). Most of these sponges come individually wrapped, so you can keep them in your handbag for those times when you’re on the go are are in the mood!
TIP 6: Use a menstrual disc
If sponges are not your thing, or you want a reusable product for mess-free period sex, choose a menstrual disc like Ovolo, Hello or Saalt. These discs can be reused for many years, making it a great eco-conscious and budget-friendly option. It is made with 100% medical-grade silicone, with a firm rim to be held in place around the cervix and behind the pubic bone. It’s different from a regular rigid menstrual cup as it has a flat shape and an ultra-thin, flexible base. Menstrual discs have a little flexible silicone bowl that catches your flow and can be worn for up to 12 hours, meaning you can pop it in before you head out for date night and virtually forget you’re on your period at all. A menstrual disc can’t be felt by your partner during sex and is easy to remove and clean after the deed is done - simply hook your finger around the rim and pull it out, then use some menstrual cup wash to disinfect. Rinse well, reinsert and you’re good to go.
Tip 7: Aftercare and hygiene
After sex, both partners should clean themselves and the intimate areas thoroughly with mild soap and warm water.
Note: Don't use your menstrual cup during sex. There have been reports of some people attempting to use their menstrual cup during penetrative sex. We hate to be a party pooper, but we believe this is a big no-no for a number of reasons. Not only will it likely be uncomfortable for you, but using a menstrual cup during sex can also be uncomfortable and dangerous for your partner too. Most menstrual cups have a stem, which could cause some painful mishaps, and your cup could end up pushed too deep inside you, causing pain. In addition to this, remember that your menstrual cup works by creating a suction seal in the vagina - if this seal is disrupted during sex, it will most likely lead to a spill. Spilling a whole cup worth of blood at once? Not such a pretty sight. It’s definitely best to switch your trusty menstrual cup for a menstrual disc or sponge during period sex.
Remember
You can still get pregnant during your period: Menstrual discs and sponges may create a barrier to prevent blood spills during sex, but they don’t provide a barrier that protects against pregnancy. If you’re preventing pregnancy, remember to use a condom or other form of birth control as well as your sponge or disc. It's a popular misconception that you can't get pregnant during your period, and although it is unlikely, it certainly isn't impossible.
Sponges and menstrual discs also don’t protect against STIs, so always use protection!
Conclusion
Period sex, like any other aspect of sexuality, is a personal choice. While some individuals may prefer to abstain from sexual activity during menstruation, others may find it pleasurable and fulfilling. It is important to challenge societal taboos and encourage open, non-judgmental conversations about period sex.
